At the current situation of chaos and pandemic around the world, we are having a moment of looking back at the age-old topic of morality. However, there is rarely a clear distinction between good and evil in our life, and this might make it difficult to ascertain your own moral compass to be a good person.
You may be surprised to learn that you are nobler than you believe if you have these 6 signs.
You have noble ideals and compassion in what you are doing
Rick Hanson, Ph.D., says one of the main ways to recognize that you’re a good person is by what you think, say, and do. Most people have an innate desire to be kind, which indicates they are better people than they realize.
Many of these behaviors include virtuous positive intentions,” “the restraint of anger,” “addiction inhibition,” “empathy and helpfulness for others,” “grit and determination,” “compassion and altruism,” “patience,” and “willingness to look, even if it’s uncomfortable,” according to Psychology Today author Scott Hanson in 2013.
Learning from life’s problems and challenges is your habit
According to Stanford University psychology professor and author of “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success,” Carol Dweck, Ph.D., the two mindsets that exist are those that are fixed and those that are growing. When facing personal and professional hurdles, it’s helpful to have the ability to “embrace challenges and overcome setbacks.”
For Harvard Business Review, Dweck (2010) said, “People who think that their abilities can be enhanced via hard work, smart tactics, and advice from others have a growth mindset.”
Even in the most difficult conditions, maintaining a positive outlook may be useful. According to Dweck, those with a development mentality are able to flourish even when life is difficult.
You are conscious of your own prejudices and work hard to identify your faults
Dolly Chugh, a psychologist and associate professor of management and organizations at New York University’s Stern School of Business, has written on the concept of “good-ish” in her book “The Person You Mean to Be: How Good People Fight Bias.” When it comes to prejudice, the expression means that it’s preferable to be honest about our faults than to always be “perfect.”
Life is difficult and we all make errors. As a result, some feel the best way to judge who you are as a person is by how you react and respond to your own mistakes and prejudices.
Someone who is not devoid of prejudice but who owns the bias when it arises is called a good-ish person, Chugh said in a 2018 interview with Behavioral Scientist. In my opinion, it is more difficult to be a decent person than it is to be a good person.
You believe in helping others, but make time for yourself as well.
John Swartzberg, MD writes in Berkeley Wellness that “helping others may offer us important responsibilities that increase self-esteem, mood, and purpose of life, which, in turn, can promote mental and physical health.”
While taking care of oneself is certainly an important part of being a good person, it doesn’t imply you’re any less of a nice person.
According to Karen Meager, a life coach from Monkey Puzzle Training, many believe that being a good person means serving others at the expense of one’s own needs, but if you do this, you’ll end up feeling left out and resentful. You must identify yourself as the most important person in your life and then you will want to act for others.
You know your own notion of what it means to be a ‘good person.’
Understanding that morality is not all-or-nothing, and therefore having an accurate perception of ourselves, has a major impact on how we see ourselves. Psychology Today interviewed Dr. Paul DePompo, a psychologist and author located in southern California, and asked him about a poisonous attitude that may be caused by seeing all of your activities as either “good” or “bad.”
Trying to believe you are one or the other sets you up for issues when you do something “bad,” which we all are capable of. This may lead to an overinflated sense of self-worth while you’re doing many nice things.
Instead, Dr. DePompo advises that you come up with three to five adjectives that describe what you consider to be a “good person” (ie: “generous” or “thoughtful”). Once you have determined if you believe you connect with being any of the terms you’ve picked, then you should think about how you perceive yourself as a result. According to him, “You are a pretty excellent, though flawed person” if you consider yourself to be at least half of the words you use.
Your connections are exceptional.
You are good at communicating and controlling your actions. A key indicator that you are a better person than you think is the ability to form and maintain strong connections. Treating people with respect and taking responsibility for your actions generally go hand in hand.
According to Karen Meager, a life coach, you may be forceful without being aggressive, helpful without saving others, and vulnerable without expecting others to save you. In order to be successful in adulthood, it is important to have the ability to be accountable for oneself and be able to have successful relationships with other people.